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Balance? It’s an illusion.

July 12, 2011

Every day I wake up with three full-time jobs – the one I get a check for, and being a wife and mother. Clearly there are varying levels of importance to each of these but as a work-at-home mom the idea of balance takes on new meaning. It’s almost impossible to make everything work perfectly, every day.

I’m amazingly blessed (thanks to God’s grace, no good merit of my own), to work for an awesome company, have amazing family support and a lot of things in my favor when it comes to keeping it all together. But the fact of the matter is, if you work from home, you’re likely to feel like you spend your entire day working. In between conference calls, writing and editing I find myself throwing in a load of laundry, cleaning up baby spit-up, playing pat-a-cake and washing dishes. (Perhaps it doesn’t help that my washing machine is in my home office…along with my son’s jumparoo…).

I’m not complaining about this situation – I wouldn’t have it any other way, and I chose this situation. A key reason I began consulting was for the flexibility and independence. And would I trade business suits and an office for pajamas and a smiling 7 month old as an office-mate? Never. But the fact of the matter is that at the end of the day, I’m plumb exhausted.

I personally think the notion of balance is an illusion – it’s a great goal to strive for but be prepared for reality – which likes to throw a curve ball or two. Lists are great, priorities essential, but at the end of the day whether you’re working at home, in an office or staying at home with kids, life is full of little surprises, and little moments to learn.

Having a positive attitude is one of my mantras. Living the life God has given us with a happy heart isn’t just a good idea – it’s a mandate! Enjoy each moment, indulge in guilty pleasures (for me it’s a pedicure every 6-8 weeks…which I look forward to for weeks in advance!) And trust that if you strive for excellence, believe in something bigger in yourself and work to the true best of your ability, everything will work out as it’s supposed to.

Some days, you may reach perfect balance – the kids will be smiling, the laundry will be done, the boss will give you accolades. Other days it won’t – you’ll screw up the big project, lose the sale, yell at your children and spill dinner all over the kitchen floor. Fortunately life is about way more than those moments.

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  1. Kimberly Hunt Kellison permalink
    July 17, 2011 11:37 am

    Lindy – Best of luck to you in working at home. I too did this when the boys were young. I do not regret it a bit, but I do wish I had enlisted some help in the form of some type of limited daycare (just my opinion in looking back). It is exhausting and I learned that the hard way!! I am glad to hear you reward yourself with a pedicure (something else I did not do was reward myself!) It sounds like you are doing a great job!!
    Love, Kim (Hunt) Kellison

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